The world of online dating has become a very “normal” place to meet women. Meeting ladies in bars clubs and in real life is becoming the exception and not the norm. The online dating world can be a very competitive and fierce place, it is therefore very important to try and follow our top 11 dating tips for men, in order to increase your chances of success.
1. Don’t play games
According to Ryan Jakovljevic, an award-winning relationship expert and couples therapist, when it comes to online dating, he recommends that you never play games. Ryan assures you that you will not win in any way, shape or form by playing games. No one will end up winning. It is important to be honest from the start. There is no point leading somebody on, if she is not what you are looking for be man enough to move on.
2. Put effort into your profile
One of the best tips is to get it right from the start. This means that you should work really hard on creating an authentic but captivating profile. It is going to be worth your while to write honest accounts of who you are and what your expectations are. Try to stand out from the crowd in a unique way. Also do not reveal too much, you want her to be tempted to find out more
3. Ask questions and show interest in her
The worst thing you can do is only talk about yourself, even if you are a rocket scientist or underwear model, it is important to be humble. Rather hold back on information about yourself and ask her about who she is. Show genuine interest in who she is and what she does. Listen carefully and be attentive and convey this through words.
4. Spend the money on a professional photographer
Professional matchmaker, author and host of “The Millionaire Matchmaker” Patti Stanger can’t stress enough how important your profile picture and photos are. She strongly suggests that you should hire a professional photographer especially for the occasion. Patti advices people to never include a child in the photo, as women will assume they are yours. Do not use your nephews or nieces even if you think this may appear cute, the chances are it may have the opposite effect.
5. Make your first message count
It is important to write really personal and good first messages. After all “first impressions really do count”. Put as much effort as you can into that first message and do your best to convey with words, who you are and what you are all about.
6. Make use of proper English and sentences
Even though it may be tempted to use emoticons, teenage talk and write quick sentences like you would on a text message, be sure not to do this. Rather make use of full sentences, check your grammar and write in proper English. You do not want to come across as sloppy, desperate, uneducated or even drunk.
7. Get your timing right
It is important to take some time to respond, but not too much time. Appear interested but at the same time, you don’t want to appear desperate or too intense. When you reply to a message everything is about “timing”.
8. Watch out for her not meeting a “checklist”
The one and only Dr Phil cautions people all the time about expecting someone to meet a checklist. For men if you are trying to find the ideal partner, it is always best to meet her first, get a feel for who she is and get to know her better. Some women may not meet your entire “checklist” but that is okay.
9. Talk about happy positive things
Regardless of how much baggage you may have, how terrible you ex may be or anything else, keep everything happy and positive. If there are things which need to be discussed rather do it in person as opposed to online. Even after you have met her, try to keep things happy and positive, until you really get to know her. Then when you do reveal things don’t bombard her all at once.
10. Never post a photo with another female
This may seem obvious to some but you will be surprised how overlooked this is. Never ever post a picture with a friend of the opposite sex. The same rule applies to your sister, female cousin and aunt. You do not want to come across as a player or trying to send an incorrect message.
11. Convey your positive qualities
Even though it may seem difficult to show somebody all your positive qualities with words, you can try. Remember to have manners, use kind words, show empathy and be understanding. Show her your gentle and sensitive side; don’t think just because you are expressing yourself with words that she will understand. In fact before you meet her; it is more important than ever to be able to show her a sense of who you are as a person and what you have to offer. After all you want to stand out from all the other men.
Men all over the world have made use of these online dating tips and techniques, which have yielded some fantastic results. “Love at first type”, can happen to you too. You never know who is on the other side of that computer screen. With honesty, openness and a willingness to step outside of your comfort zone, you may just meet your true love sooner than you expect.