I always find it funny that the top “relationship experts” are always people who are either single or who are divorced. However this does not stop me from listening to them and watching them. The truth is that “love” is a hot commodity, everyone wants it.
Regardless of who you are reading this, where you come from, what your life experience has been or what your personal views are, I can almost guarantee that you value the idea of having a successful long lasting and happy relationship. Let’s be honest, we all want love and we want it to be amazing.
Today I want to share with you some important relationship tips that will help you to have a happier and long lasting relationship with your significant other. Don’t worry if you are not in a relationship and you are looking to find your ideal partner, I haven’t forgotten about you and I have some tips for you too. Although these are things that may be obvious to some, the truth is that they are things that most of us just take for granted.
If you are not in a relationship and you are looking to find your significant other:
1. Fall in love with yourself
Many people who are not in relationships and who are looking to find their significant other forget that you need to fall in love with yourself first. Before anybody will be able to see your potential and greatness you will need to see your own potential and greatness. This is an essential component of finding your soul mate.
2. Become emotionally and financially stable
The truth us that financial problems is a huge reason for conflicts in a relationship. In fact many marriages break up because of financial problems. One of the best things which you can do to make yourself ready to meet your future partner is to become financially stable. In addition to becoming financially stable, you need to also become emotionally stable. Any issues you have had with past relationships you will need to try and work through before you meet the one for you.
3. Focus on being happy
Even though it may seem clique, the truth is that you cannot be happy with someone else if you can’t be happy by yourself. Therefore it is extremely important for you to work on your own happiness. Spend each day trying to be happy and grateful for what you do have in your life. By being happy and positive on your own, you will be ready to attract the right person into your life.
4. Don’t let a bad experience set you back
Many people will tell you that they have had to go through many bad experiences to get to the right one. If you are going on dates or if you have had a bad relationship in the past, don’t allow that to make you skeptical. Sometimes these bad experiences are simply stepping stones to get to the person you are meant to spend the rest of your life with.
5. Acknowledge your own self-worth first
It is essential that you know your own self-worth. You need to know your own value and how special you really are. In order to attract the right type of person, who will be good enough to spend the rest of your life with, you need to ensure that you know how you deserve to be treated. Never settle for anything less and the way to achieve this is by knowing your own uniqueness.
6. Look in the right places
This may seem obvious to some but the truth is that your ideal partner may not be someone who hangs out in a bar or a nightclub. Therefore it is important to look in the right places. This could be asking a friend to set you up, or making use of a dating App or website. If you have being trying to meet people in certain places maybe consider trying alternative types of places.
7. Give everyone a chance and be open minded
You may have been going for the same type of person or you may have had similar experiences in the past. One of the best ways for you to meet your partner is to give people a fair chance. Be willing to be open-minded and don’t put down barriers. For example if you only want a partner who is tall, you are already ruling out everybody who is short. The most amazing person who could be your soul mate could be short or even medium height for that matter. Be open-minded to the possibilities and give everybody a fair chance. Don’t be scared to step outside of your comfort zone and to try something new.
8. Find someone you can be yourself around
Throw away your ideals and start living in reality. When you find your soul mate it doesn’t always happen the way that it does in the movies. Sometimes you may start off being really good friends. The key to finding the right person for you is to find someone that you can be your true self around. Even if it simply starts out as a friendship first and you build it from there.
If you are already in a relationship:
If you are already in a relationship and you would like to see your relationship blossom and last, then these top tips are for you.
1. Plan a date night once a week
Sometimes a relationship loses its romance, through no fault of yours. This can be due to both partners being busy and the routine of daily life setting in. One of the best things you can do for your relationship is to plan a date night once a week. This can be at the movies, a dinner or anything where the two of you get to spend one evening a week alone together, just the two of you.
2. Focus on your partners good qualities
In any relationship it is easy to start getting fixated on your partner’s imperfections and quirks. After all, everyone is human and no one is perfect. Instead of focusing on what is wrong, rather spend your time and energy focusing on what is right. Remind yourself daily of the positive qualities that your partner has. Remember to pay your partner compliments, and to always be kind.
3. Never go to bed angry
One of the oldest tricks to maintaining a long lasting and healthy relationship is to never go to bed angry. No matter what the situation is, be sure to always resolve any conflict no matter how big or small it is, before you go to sleep.
In order to make a relationship last, you need to be prepared to communicate honestly and openly with your partner. This is not always easy but it is an essential component of a long lasting relationship. Be open about your feelings and be willing to share your emotions in a raw and honest way.
5. Invest time and energy
Regardless of how long you have been with your partner, it is imperative that you are prepared to invest time and energy into the relationship. A relationship takes work; it is not something that you can simply neglect. Regardless of work, life and other commitments you may have, always make time for your relationship.
6. Respect your partner
One of the most important things that every relationship needs in order to last and succeed is a mutual respect for one another. Always respect your partner and your partner’s feelings. Even if you disagree with some of the decisions your partner makes or the way that they see the world, always remain respectful no matter what the situation is. Always ensure that your partner knows that they are respected.
7. Work as a team
A common reason why a relationship fails is because of a lack of team work. It is important to always look out for your partner’s best interests and to make sure that they feel supported. Do not become selfish and only focus on your own needs, but instead look out for the needs of your partner and the relationship. Work together as a team as much as you can.
8. Be affectionate
No matter how long you have been with your partner it is important to always keep the romance alive. Remember to hold hands and to hug each other often. Showing affection is an important part of a relationship. Keep kissing and going for long walks on the beach hand in hand.
Regardless of if you are already in a relationship and you are looking for it to last a lifetime or if you are not in a relationship and you are looking for your ideal soul mate, these tips will be able to help you. The truth of the matter is that anything which is beneficial in life with the inclusion of love is worth putting in time and effort.
“Love is like the wind, you can’t see it, but you can feel it.”-Nicholas Sparks